All four deals© were released in 1997 and have sold about 9 million times. It`s been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those that we encounter ourselves. I have not read this book and I do not intend to read it. I saw these four conventions on the wall in a yoga teacher`s house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hypermasculine ideas to improve ourselves. In fact, they could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that we need to be repaired and that we ultimately end up with more self-judgment. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the masculine strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the gentler maintenance and accept mother qualities of the deep woman. Truly loving ourselves for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to non-evaluation of ourselves and others and surprising unshakability. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding, which involves knowing ourselves as an unlimited divine presence. Here is an improvised list of my 4 chords: (1) Do you pause again and again If I have to call four self-betrayals that I normally do to myself, will they be? As far as irreprolity is concerned, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if you take it that way, you would indeed be going crazy.
(By the way, the repress and other agreements you make with yourself are not demands that Ruiz makes of you.) On the other hand, if you set yourself the goal of being blameless with your word, you strive to be as honest and kind as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection from yourself or fighting if you are too short, this agreement with yourself could improve your well-being. I know it was written a few years ago. And I still have to take into account some of the author`s misunderstandings about wisdom in “The Four Accords.” Note that the beginning of the book on domestication and dreams is an important preface to understanding the power of new chords. I interpreted “is” as a life in the present moment and “was” represented past behaviors. Change of temporal form probably intentionally. The best way to develop knowledge is to bypass other assessments and read the material and develop one`s own knowledge. As I also replay topics in the reference, I think we all receive something different from each book, based on completely different emotional reactions, based on observations from a group that read all four chords at the same time. There were about fifty of them, and I recommended to a brother and sister who had childhood trauma. He read the first chapters in tears, but he understood the healing force itself. The first one only annoyed me, but I understood that he drew why we should not believe like that. Be blameless with your word.
Don`t take anything personally. Don`t make assumptions. Always do your best. Dear light and truth. We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that “our best” varies from moment to moment, depending on our circumstances and mental state. Acknowledging this fact leads to the realization that everything we are doing right now is of our best, and this awareness can prevent us from flogging ourselves if we are not up to an unreasonable standard of perfection. . . .